I think we all have a friend that for lack of a better word or phrase we call them motor mouths because they just won’t shut up. If you don’t have one, I’m sure at some point, you have… These friends are usually very beautiful, charming and interesting creatures but also, dreadfully annoying. Once they get to talking there’s no way of putting your two cents in. They talk and talk and the moment you think you have a chance and utter two words, you couldn’t be further from the truth. Sometimes they even think they know what you’re talking about and go on a rampage, while you reproach-ably slouch back and think “I wasn’t even talking about that.”
Friends such as these, often ruin girls night outs and special announcements you intended to share with your friends. Motor mouths though eccentric and alluring sometimes become somewhat of a nuisance with their non-stop chit chat that usually just revolves around them and their lives. These chit chatters are often self absorbed and narcissistic. They monopolize conversations and basically leave you high and dry.
What are some ways to handle your motor mouth of a friend? Well, we’ve come up with a couple of solutions that may or may not work. However, it’s worth a shot, so here we go:
- 1. Text your motor mouth friend before meeting up for drinks and let her know that you have something very important to tell her and that it is imperative that she hears you out. Giving her a heads up with enough emphasis and diligence might get her curious enough to shut up and actually listen to whatever you want to say.
- 2. When you walk in to your hang out place with your motor mouth friend and other friends before you even sit down, announce that you have something you liked to share with all of them. Begin speaking with out taking a seat so that all attention is on you and this may throw motor mouth off her track.
- 3. Perhaps, it’s time to have a chat with your friend if she allows you to speak and express how truly upsetting it is that she never allows you to say a word, whether it’s about you or a commentary about her own story. Again, in this case, a text message with a diligent- heads up might get her to shut her trap long enough for you to tell her that she basically sucks and is not a good listener.
- 4. Finally, if none of the above work, you’re going to have to give her a real wake up call. Though you know she’s utterly rude and inconsiderate she probably has no idea. So if you begin to speak and she interrupts you, in a stern, authoritative tone tell her “Excuse me! But in case you didn’t notice I was in the middle of saying something, don’t you have any manners? Can you please wait till I’m done saying what I need to say and then speak?” The more people around you, the better, this person needs to be put on the spot and not the the spot light like she’s accustomed to. She’ll either be really upset and walk away, or she’ll be real upset and shut up or worse case scenario she’ll get real mad and go off on you and then you can tell her how much she really truly sucks as a friend.
Motor mouth friends usually have magnificent personalities but with them come attached personality traits that are ugly and sometimes even intolerable. If none of the above work, maybe your motor mouth of a friend is not just a motor mouth but she’s also, a lousy friend who hasn’t responded, reacted or considered any of your attempts to make the relationship reciprocal.
Who needs a friend that can dish out and vent on all her issues and triumphs while you carefully take in every detail and relate to her and listen to her and she can’t never reciprocate the same action for you? Is this really a friend or a flake that just likes listening to herself speak? At the end of the day, if you can’t get your motor mouth friend under some kind of control, you’ll end up building strong feelings of resentment towards her. Sometimes it’s best to distance yourself from this person at least for some time.
Hope these tips help you out with your out of control chataholic friend. Be sure to tune into Wealthy Men Blog for all tips and advice on landing a wealthy guy and other helpful advice!